Love, ADHD

Turning Negativity Into Insight: Julie De Jesus on Interviewing Kevin Franke and What the Comments Reveal About Us

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 22 Aug 2025 12:00:00 -0400

Tony sits down with his friend and Love, ADHD co-host, Julie De Jesus, to unpack her recent interview with Kevin Franke, ex-husband of Ruby Franke. Ruby, the former “8 Passengers” YouTuber, pled guilty in late 2023 to multiple counts of aggravated child abuse and, along with her business partner Jodi Hildebrandt, was sentenced in February 2024 to up to 30 years in prison under Utah law.

While Tony originally planned to ask Julie about Kevin, the conversation took a different turn: the tidal wave of comments Julie received after posting her interview. With humor, honesty, and therapeutic insight, Tony and Julie read through some of those YouTube comments out loud, responding in real time. They explore why people are so quick to judge, why emotions often masquerade as facts, and how online criticism reveals more about the commenter than the person being critiqued.

You’ll hear candid reflections on:

What Kevin’s story stirs up in people (and why)
How emotional immaturity shows up in the comment section (projection, black-and-white thinking, and mistaking feelings for truth)
Why leaving abusive situations is never as simple as outsiders believe
The concept of “whole object relations” — holding multiple emotions at once
How Julie navigated negativity while staying grounded and authentic

This episode is part deep dive into psychology, part raw behind-the-scenes of content creation, and part hilarious reading of unfiltered internet comments. If you’ve ever wondered why strangers online lash out—or how to handle criticism with both compassion and boundaries—this one’s for you.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:33 Julie De Jesus and Her Interview with Kevin Frankie

01:11 Handling Criticism and Emotional Reactions

02:40 Understanding Emotional Maturity

03:55 Navigating Online Criticism

07:40 Promoting the Upcoming Cruise

11:51 The Future of Love A DHD Podcast

12:24 Deep Dive into Kevin Frankie's Interview

21:04 Personal Reflections and Recognitions

31:30 Introduction to Kate's Family Dynamics

31:32 Exploring Religious Roles and Power Dynamics

32:23 Personal Reflections and Family Dynamics

35:00 Commentary on Interview Techniques

36:26 Debating Faith and Atheism

38:40 Addressing Online Criticism

42:20 Therapy and Personal Growth

53:05 Inner Child and Emotional Healing

01:00:02 Concluding Thoughts and Reflections

Contact Tony at contact@tonyoverbay.com to learn more about his Emotional Architects men's group.

And visit https://julie-dejesus.com/cruise to learn more about Tony and his friend Julie De Jesus's "I See You Living" cruise, a 5-night Western Caribbean Cruise from January 24-29, 2026 aboard the Royal Caribbean Cruise Line.

Fight, Flight, Freeze... or Fib? Exploring ADHD Behaviors

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Tue, 09 Jul 2024 13:01:36 -0400

Tony and Julie return from a hiatus to discuss the concepts of fibbing, emotional maturity, and narcissistic traits in individuals with ADHD. They delve into the science behind the fight, flight, freeze, or fib response, examining how fibbing serves as a self-preservation strategy. They highlight the importance of authenticity and sharing true selves to foster a sense of belonging. Using real-life examples and referencing expert insights, they encourage acceptance and emotional growth in managing ADHD traits. The episode concludes with personal anecdotes and a love letter to ADHD.

00:00 Welcome Back After Hiatus

00:46 Substantial Growth Retreat Explained

01:16 Top ADHD Podcast Recognition

02:16 Funny Client Story

07:10 Emotional Immaturity and ADHD

14:34 Managing Notifications and Missed Calls

15:24 The Truth Behind Ignored Messages

15:59 Embracing Integrity in Communication

17:30 Understanding ADHD and Fibbing

18:56 The Science of Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fib

20:58 The Impact of Fibbing on Self-Esteem

22:25 Authenticity and Belonging

25:05 The Importance of Knowing Your Story

30:10 Final Thoughts and Personal Reflections

Head to http://love-adhd.com to learn more.

From Perfection to Persistence: 2024 American Ninja Warrior Champion Addy Herman’s ADHD Journey

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Mon, 13 May 2024 13:52:58 -0400

Tony and Julie welcome the 2024 American Ninja Warrior Women’s Champion, Addy Herman, to “Love, ADHD!” They discuss her journey with ADHD and how it's played a pivotal role in her training, competitive mindset, and personal growth. Addy shares insights into the challenges and triumphs of the American Ninja Warrior course, her battle with perfectionism, and how her ADHD diagnosis came as a turning point in her life. Addy emphasizes the importance of finding identity outside achievements and recognizing ADHD as a part of her unique strength. They also explore the nuances of training, nutrition, and mental health and provide valuable lessons on persistence, self-acceptance, and the transformative power of growth through discomfort. You can find Addy on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/addyherman.116/

And follow her on YouTube at https://www.youtube.com/@addyherman

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00:00 Welcome to Love ADHD: Introducing Addy Herman

00:44 Diving Deep: Addy's American Ninja Warrior Experience

03:00 The Power of Focus: Competing with ADHD

04:34 Unveiling ADHD: Addy's Personal Journey and Insights

05:15 Embracing Failure: Learning and Growing Through Discomfort

14:56 Identity and Success: Finding Fulfillment Beyond the Sport

17:35 Exploring the Depths of ADHD and Identity

20:02 The Joy and Challenges of Ninja Training

20:39 Behind the Scenes: The Nervous Excitement Before Competing

21:26 The Supportive Ninja Community

23:05 The Fun of Filming and Preparing for the Show

26:50 Training, Diet, and ADHD: A Personal Journey

31:58 The Positive Impact of ADHD on Success

33:36 Connecting with Addy: Social Media and Future Plans

Navigating ADHD Treatment, Medication, Julie and Tony Get Personal

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 03 May 2024 17:10:17 -0400

Julie Lee and Tony Overbay, LMFT, scrap an episode they were planning on and instead get personal about their experiences and thoughts surrounding ADHD, medication, and handling societal perceptions. They share personal anecdotes related to the challenges of ADHD medication, including shortages, dosage adjustments, and the stigma attached to taking medication. They touch upon the impact of medication on daily functioning and quality of life, exploring the complexities of treatment options, including antidepressants and stimulants. They emphasize the importance of individualized care, and the potential benefits of early treatment and address misconceptions surrounding ADHD medication and addiction. Through their conversation, the hosts aim to provide insights, comfort, and encouragement to those navigating similar journeys with ADHD.

00:00 Opening Banter and Humor Attempts

01:22 Navigating Medication Shortages and Personal Experiences

05:45 The Journey of Mental Health and Medication Adjustments

08:06 The Impact of ADHD Diagnosis on Medication and Mental Health

11:58 A Weekend Without Adderall: A Personal Story

13:42 Navigating Medication and Self-Acceptance

14:14 The Confusion Around Medication Reviews and Personal Experiences

15:02 The Impact of Medication on Daily Life and Self-Perception

16:30 Exploring Genetic Therapy and Future ADHD Treatments

17:28 The Role of Lifestyle in Managing ADHD

18:46 The Challenge of Maintaining a Perfect Routine for Mental Health

21:10 The Power of Struggle and Embracing Discomfort

23:32 The Complexities of ADHD Medication and Self-Identity

25:20 Addressing the Stigma and Misconceptions Around ADHD Medication

27:09 The Importance of Personalized Care in ADHD Treatment

31:46 Looking Forward: The Journey Continues

Unlocking Potential: Nurturing Children with ADHD w/Lindsey Harris, MEd, LSC

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 22 Mar 2024 08:36:05 -0400

In this week's episode, Julie engages in a candid and enlightening conversation with her close friend, Lindsey Harris. Lindsey is a school counselor who works with children diagnosed with ADHD and a parenting educator who helps parents navigate the experience.

Lindsey, drawing from her expertise in counseling children with ADHD, offers valuable insights and practical advice throughout the conversation.

Their conversation is filled with empathy, humor, and mutual understanding, creating a safe and empowering space for listeners to feel inspired and encouraged on their ADHD journeys as parents.

Tune in to this engaging episode, in which Julie and Lindsey offer relatable perspectives, expert guidance, and heartfelt encouragement for anyone navigating life with children with ADHD.

For inquiries, contact Lindsey Harris at lindsey.harris@nebo.edu

Head to http://love-adhd.com to learn more.

The ADHD Parenting Playbook: Love, Strategies, and Support

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 15 Mar 2024 10:39:15 -0400

Tony and Julie engage in a candid and illuminating discussion about ADHD, particularly focusing on its implications for parenting. They share personal anecdotes and explore how ADHD can affect children's behaviors, such as inattentiveness, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. The conversation includes insights on the genetic aspect of ADHD, the importance of education for parents, and approaches for managing and supporting children with ADHD effectively. It also touches on the therapeutic aspects of ADHD, including the potential impact of medication, and highlights the importance of maintaining a positive parent-child relationship. With a mix of humor, empathy, and an informed perspective, Tony and Julie aim to destigmatize ADHD and empower parents and individuals dealing with it.

00:00 Welcome to Love ADHD: The Podcast Intro

00:09 Navigating Recording Challenges and ADHD Traits

01:23 The Paradox of ADHD and Authenticity

02:08 Parenting a Child with ADHD: Insights and Strategies

04:04 Understanding ADHD Symptoms in Kids

08:25 Hyperactivity and Impulsiveness: A Deeper Dive

11:14 Empowering Parents: Education and Understanding ADHD

15:33 Understanding ADHD and Anxiety: A Deep Dive

15:57 The Impact of Labels and Accommodations in Education

16:36 Exploring the Nuances of ADHD vs. General Anxiety

18:40 Medication and ADHD: Insights and Personal Stories

25:44 Parenting Strategies and Support for ADHD

27:03 Discipline, Understanding, and Love: Key Parenting Approaches

29:56 Concluding Thoughts: Embracing ADHD with Love and Understanding

Head to HTTP://love-adhd.com to learn more.

Dream Big, List Small: The ADHD Guide to Aspiring and Misfiring

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 16 Feb 2024 12:06:12 -0500

Julie and Tony revisit the topic of “executive functioning” and explore what embracing “executive dysfunction” looks like. They discuss how individuals with ADHD know what tools they should be using to organize their lives; they struggle with executing these tasks consistently. They discuss strategies like externalizing to-do lists, setting up automatic payments, using password managers, and making processes enjoyable to combat inconsistency. They continue to advocate for acceptance and the creation of systems to support the brain processes for a more consistent approach toward task completion. And then the episode falls apart as Julie’s computer freezes and Tony rushes to capture a screenshot of Julie’s “frozen face” only to then realize the file was lost…until now!

00:00 Introduction and Technical Difficulties

00:11 The Lost Episode and ADHD Topics

00:33 The Freeze Face Incident

01:08 Recovering the Lost File and ADHD Experience

01:35 Starting the Show and Sound Issues

02:31 Discussing ADHD and Time Management

04:08 Understanding ADHD Executive Dysfunction

11:50 Strategies to Support Executive Functioning

13:15 Muscle Memory and ADHD

15:00 Embracing the Chaos: My Planner Journey

16:11 Acceptance: Embracing the Present

16:48 The Never-Ending Pursuit of More

17:56 The Struggle of Being Enough

18:37 The Value of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

20:45 The Generational Gap: Understanding Different Perspectives

22:44 Speed Round: Quick Tips for Managing ADHD

26:04 The Importance of Self-Credit and Handling Setbacks

26:55 Closing Thoughts and Farewell

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Chasing Mindfulness: A Chat on ADHD, Goals & Embracing Opportunities

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 26 Jan 2024 10:06:02 -0500

Join Julie and Tony in 'Love ADHD' Episode 17 (and a half, due to earlier technical issues) as they discuss the balance between structure and flexibility in their lives, their experiences with self-imposed structures, and how they're gradually transitioning to a more mindful approach to life. They mention their struggles with interactions, miscommunications, time management, and even their physical appearances. They reveal how setbacks are opportunities for self-discovery and share their growing acceptance of 'doing and being.' They also discuss how certain activities, such as pickleball and meditation, have therapeutic effects that help them stay regulated. This frank and open conversation revolves around their insights on relationships, careers, socially compliant goals, and validation. The hosts demonstrate resilience, humor, and unshakeable positivity through their ADHD journey.

00:01 Introduction and Casual Banter

01:03 Welcome to Love ADHD Episode 17

01:20 High Forehead and Self-Image Discussion

02:25 Continuing with Quotes from ADHD 2.0

02:53 Contact Information and Listener Engagement

03:24 Exploring Quotes from ADHD 2.0

04:27 Personal Experiences and Reflections

10:52 Technical Difficulties and Perseverance

12:23 Continuing the Discussion on ADHD

14:55 Embracing Emotional Freedom

15:15 The Power of Humor and Personal Anecdotes

15:52 Exploring Personal Growth and Self-Reflection

16:17 The Balance Between Self-Care and Self-Improvement

16:58 The Journey to Acceptance and Commitment

20:27 The Impact of Structure on Personal and Professional Life

20:42 Embracing the Hippie Lifestyle

20:51 The Power of Now: A Personal Transformation

21:20 The Role of Structure in Career Choices

24:37 The Joy of Challenges and Problem-Solving

27:30 Finding Peace in Every Step

29:28 Conclusion: Embracing Opportunities for Mindfulness

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Ferrari Engines and Bicycle Brakes: Unfolding the Intricacies of ADHD

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 12 Jan 2024 13:14:37 -0500

Julie and Tony delve into the understanding provided by the book 'ADHD 2.0' and compare adult ADHD to a Ferrari engine with bicycle-strength brakes. They discuss learning to work with this energy and attention rather than attempting to control it. The paradoxical nature of ADHD is also explored - with traits often exhibiting as extremes in impulsive behaviors, punctuality, cleanliness, and emotional responses. The dialogue further touches on topics of rejection sensitivity and taking ownership of ADHD as part of their identity.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:33 Behind the Scenes: Podcasting with ADHD

01:50 ADHD 2.0: The Book That Changed Everything

04:19 Understanding the Paradoxical Nature of ADHD

05:10 Strengthening Your Brakes: Strategies for Managing ADHD

10:31 The Contradictory Tendencies of ADHD

11:17 Interpersonal Relationships and ADHD

14:24 Embracing Straightforwardness and Dealing with Abrasiveness

15:17 The Role of a Therapist in Managing ADHD

16:16 Understanding the Impact of ADHD on Relationships

17:26 The Journey of Self-Awareness and Improvement with ADHD

18:32 The Struggles of Dating with ADHD

20:17 The Road to Emotional Maturity with ADHD

21:44 The Paradox of Impulsivity in ADHD

21:59 The Challenges of Controlling ADHD

22:28 The Importance of Self-Acceptance in ADHD

26:16 The Consequences of Impulsive Decisions in ADHD

Head to HTTP://love-adhd.com to learn more.

ADHD, Childhood, and Connection: Overcoming Rejection Sensitivity Through Understanding and Love

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 05 Jan 2024 13:35:00 -0500

Tony takes the reins solo in this episode as he returns the favor of Julie hosting last week. Tony explains Julie’s quote of him saying, “Kids are little narcissists,” and talks about ego-syntonic vs. ego-dystonic behaviors in children. He then shares the importance of positive connections, the effects of childhood trauma on adult health, the impact of ADHD on familial relationships, and more. Listening to this episode will also reveal the correlation between behavioral issues and emotional immaturity, how to grow emotionally, and an interesting perspective on childhood development stages. Furthermore, it discusses the findings from a pioneering study on adverse childhood experiences (ACES) and their influence on adult lifestyle and health conditions. Tune in to understand ADHD better and to appreciate the incredibly powerful role of love and positive connection in our lives.

00:00 Introduction and Recap of Previous Episode

00:27 Understanding Narcissism and Emotional Immaturity

00:47 The Impact of Labels and Self-Perception

02:11 The Role of Empathy in Relationships

04:18 Exploring the Concept of Egosyntonic and Ego-dystonic Behaviors

06:44 The Connection Between ADHD and Emotional Immaturity

07:05 The Importance of Self-Confrontation and Ownership

09:01 The Healing Power of Connection

10:25 The Impact of Childhood Trauma on Adult Health

15:56 The Role of Love and Connection in Healing

16:32 Understanding the Rabbit Effect and the Grant Study

20:38 The Importance of Feeling Heard, Seen, and Understood

24:24 Conclusion and Preview of the Next Episode

Head to HTTP://love-adhd.com to learn more

ADHD Diagnosis: The Cause or the Context?

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 29 Dec 2023 10:50:57 -0500

Julie goes solo in this episode and reflects on the role of labels, particularly ADHD, and how to understand them better. She emphasizes viewing ADHD as a context, not a cause for certain behaviors. She shares personal experiences and thoughts about emotional immaturity, the development of narcissistic tendencies, and self-compassion. With an encouraging note, she reminds listeners that learning about ADHD is a journey of self-discovery and understanding that leads to greater success and fulfillment in life.

00:00 Introduction and Absence of Tony

00:51 The Power of Context Over Cause

02:02 Understanding Labels and Diagnoses

02:34 The Role of Labels in Behavior

04:00 The Importance of Growth Mindset

04:15 Exploring Narcissism and Its Implications

04:58 The Spectrum of Narcissism

07:39 Understanding Emotional Immaturity

09:51 Taking Responsibility for Personal Behavior

10:55 The Power of Self-Compassion

14:00 The Root of Narcissism: Self-Loathing

17:04 Understanding ADHD as Context, Not Cause

20:04 The Importance of Interdependency

22:08 Conclusion: Embracing the Journey with ADHD

Head to HTTP://love-adhd.com to learn more.

ADHD in Disguise Part 2 - 'Broccolipunzle' is Back!

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 22 Dec 2023 07:42:50 -0500

Julie and Tony pick up where last week’s episode left off and continue their discussion of the parallels between Julie's children's book, 'Broccolipunzle,' and elements of ADHD. They focus on emotional acceptance, especially regarding rejection sensitivity specific to ADHD. Tony deep-dives into ADHD, neurology, and society's discomfort with negative emotions, highlighting the importance of self-acceptance and embracing uniqueness. Julie believes that all our differences make us powerful and emphasizes fostering an understanding of emotions. The episode concludes with an uplifting message to a character named Danny on embracing your emotions and how your uniqueness makes you powerful.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Start

00:02 Discussion on the Number 13

00:52 The Love for Halloween

01:25 The Fear of Number 13

01:51 The Story of Broccolipunzle Begins

02:53 Broccolipunzle's Journey Begins

06:31 Broccolipunzle's Encounter with the Beggar

10:39 Broccolipunzle's Interaction with the Children

12:12 Reflections on the Story

14:28 Living in the Present Moment

14:41 The Missed Opportunity in the Children's Book

15:30 Acceptance and Embracing the Present

15:35 Broccolipunzle's Generosity and the Villagers' Curiosity

16:04 Questioning the Nature of Broccolipunzle’s Hair

16:43 Broccolipunzle’s Reflection and Acceptance

17:01 The Princess's Transformation and Acceptance

18:32 Broccolipunzle's Realization and Fairy Godmother's Wisdom

19:17 The Power of Being Different and Embracing Uniqueness

19:48 The Impact of Broccolipunzle's Transformation

26:12 The Importance of Accepting Negative Emotions

27:35 The Power of Being Different and Embracing Uniqueness - Revisited

29:48 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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ADHD in Disguise? The Curious Case of 'Broccolipunzle'

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 08 Dec 2023 15:24:23 -0500

Julie and Tony discuss the intriguing parallels between Julie's children's book, 'Broccolipunzle,' and elements of ADHD. They explore themes like anticipatory rejection and rejection sensitivity, maintaining a positive outlook on uniqueness and resilience. The hosts also touch on various aspects of ADHD, interpretations of experiences, and the importance of accepting each other's differing perspectives. The book forms a metaphor for issues people with ADHD often face, such as trying to fit into societal norms. With the book as their muse, they address stigmas surrounding ADHD and encourage acceptance.

00:00 Introduction and Fun Facts about Number 12

03:38 The Irony of Public Speaking

05:04 The Origin Story of Broccolipunzle

11:12 The Unusual Kindness of Broccolipunzle

16:12 Broccolipunzle's Struggles and Desire for Normalcy

16:31 Introduction to ADHD 2.0

16:34 Exploring the Paradoxes of ADHD

16:57 Diving into the Story of Broccolipunzle

17:44 Analyzing the Role of the Fairy Godmother

18:21 Discussing the Concept of Happiness in Leadership

18:56 Unpacking the Negative Messages in Fairytales

19:31 Continuing the Story of Broccolipunzlel

20:17 Reflecting on the Challenges of Broccolipunzle

23:40 Discussing the Julie's Intention in Writing the Story

24:30 Preparing for Public Speaking Engagements

28:45 Concluding Thoughts and Looking Forward to Part Two

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Understanding the Differences and Similarities Between ADHD and Anxiety

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 01 Dec 2023 09:14:13 -0500

In the 11th episode of Love ADHD, Tony Overbay, LMFT, and Julie Lee are joined by a special guest, Mackey Overbay, a licensed cosmetologist and host of “The Mind, The Mirror and Me” podcast, to talk about the differences and the similarities between ADHD and anxiety. They also share personal experiences, debating if conditions like sleep, focus, bowel problems, or muscle tension relate more to ADHD or anxiety. The discussion underscores the importance of understanding one's symptoms and getting a proper diagnosis, especially as ADHD symptoms can often be misdiagnosed as anxiety, particularly in adult women. The chart Tony, Mackie, and Julie read from can be found here https://neurodivergentinsights.com/misdiagnosis-monday/adhdvsanxiety

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00:00 Introduction and Welcoming the Special Guest

01:22 Understanding Anxiety vs ADHD

01:50 Misdiagnosis of ADHD and Anxiety

02:42 The Role of Anxiety in ADHD

05:41 The Impact of Anxiety and ADHD on Studying

06:19 Comparing Personal Experiences with Anxiety and ADHD

15:22 Understanding the Overlap between Anxiety and ADHD

18:49 Exploring the Role of GABA in Anxiety and ADHD

20:44 Understanding Sleep Issues and Low GABA Levels

21:13 Impact of ADHD Medication

21:32 Exploring the Connection Between ADHD and Memory

22:22 The Role of Fight or Flight Response in ADHD

22:53 The Effect of Narcissistic Relationships on Memory

23:19 Understanding Intrusive Thoughts in ADHD and Anxiety

24:58 The Role of Sympathetic Nervous System in ADHD and Anxiety

25:06 Exploring the Connection Between ADHD, Anxiety and GI Issues

26:11 Understanding Restlessness and Muscle Tension in ADHD and Anxiety

28:14 The Role of Medication in Managing ADHD and Anxiety

33:58 The Impact of ADHD and Anxiety on Impulsivity

34:14 Understanding the Differences Between ADHD and Anxiety

34:55 Concluding Thoughts on ADHD and Anxiety

Thank You ADHD!

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Sun, 26 Nov 2023 16:45:35 -0500

Have you ever considered the unique gifts that come with ADHD? In Episode 10 of "Love, ADHD," hosts Tony and Julie engage in a fascinating discussion about finding gratitude amidst the whirlwind of ADHD. This episode isn't just about the challenges; it's a celebration of the unexpected benefits and strengths that ADHD can bring into our lives.

The conversation starts with a light-hearted reflection on reaching their 10th episode, and Tony begins a new tradition in sharing the story of the “Peace Frisbee.”. From there, Tony and Julie dive into the heart of the matter, sharing personal anecdotes and insights on how ADHD traits like hyperfocus, impulsivity, creativity, and curiosity have shaped their lives, both positively and negatively. Julie opens up about the exhilarating aspects of hyperfocus, especially in projects, and the diverse manifestations of impulsivity. She also explores how her curiosity has fostered a more open and less judgmental attitude towards others.

A highlight of the episode is Julie's candid talk about how ADHD influences her parenting style, emphasizing the creative and intentional aspects brought on by her hyperfocus. On the other hand, Tony discusses the joys and pitfalls of impulsivity in decision-making. Throughout the episode, the hosts pepper their conversation with memorable quotes and stories, illustrating the unique perspectives and abilities that come with ADHD. They wrap up with a powerful message of gratitude, encouraging listeners to embrace and appreciate the positive aspects of ADHD, such as creativity, curiosity, and exceptional people skills.

This episode of "Love, ADHD" is not just insightful; it's a timely reminder in today's conformist society of the value and richness ADHD traits can add to our lives. It's a call to recognize and celebrate the creativity, spontaneity, and curiosity that individuals with ADHD bring to the world, breaking down stigmas and fostering a deeper understanding of this condition. Join us in this uplifting journey of gratitude and discovery, and see ADHD in a new, empowering light.

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To Label or Not to Label: THAT is the ADHD (and Societal) Question!

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 17 Nov 2023 10:53:04 -0500

Have you ever wondered if labeling someone, especially with a diagnosis like ADHD, does more good than harm? Or could it be a bit of both? Dive into Episode 9 of "Love, ADHD" with hosts Julie and Tony as they embark on a thought-provoking journey into the world of labels. This episode isn't just about ADHD; it's a broader exploration of the impact of labeling on our lives and society.

Join Julie and Tony as they share their personal experiences and insights on how labels like ADHD have shaped their interactions and self-perception. They tackle the tough questions: Can labels limit us, or do they offer a path to understanding and managing our unique challenges? Julie opens up about her journey of self-discovery and mental health awareness, revealing how getting the right label was a turning point in her life. Meanwhile, Tony introduces the intriguing concept of the "expectation effect" and how positive reinforcement through labeling can lead to personal growth and change.

But it's not all black and white. Our hosts delve into the societal perceptions of labels and their potential misuse. They discuss the delicate balance between using labels as empowering tools for self-awareness and growth and the risk of them becoming excuses for negative behaviors. This episode challenges you to consider the complexity of labeling in our modern society and its impact on social inclusion and understanding.

So, are labels a stepping stone to empathy and understanding or a barrier to seeing the individual beyond the diagnosis? Tune in to this compelling episode of "Love, ADHD" and join the conversation. It's time to reevaluate how we approach and interpret labels with an open mind and a compassionate heart.

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ADHD: A Growing Trend or Growing Understanding?

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 10 Nov 2023 07:50:52 -0500

Why does it seem like everyone is getting an ADHD diagnosis these days? Dive into the latest episode of "Love, ADHD" with Tony and Julie, where we tackle this burning question head-on! In a world where ADHD diagnoses are on the rise, we explore whether this reflects a real increase in ADHD cases or if we're just getting better at recognizing it. From the evolution of ADHD medication to the impact of environmental factors, this episode is a treasure trove of insights!

Join us as we delve into the changing landscape of ADHD diagnoses, discussing how increased awareness and acceptance within the medical community have led to more adults being diagnosed. We're not just talking facts and figures here; we're sharing personal stories and listener experiences that bring the reality of living with ADHD to life. Plus, we touch on the power of labels and the importance of self-acceptance, offering a fresh perspective on ADHD beyond the medical lens.

This episode isn't just informative; it's a journey of discovery, empathy, and empowerment. Whether you're navigating ADHD yourself, know someone who is, or are just curious about the topic, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in and join our vibrant community as we embrace the unique experiences and perspectives that come with ADHD.

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Emotional Dysregulation and ADHD: Dropping Balls & Catching Feels

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 03 Nov 2023 08:35:15 -0400

Have you ever put your keys down and five minutes later had no idea where they were? Or have you ever felt like you were riding the emotional rollercoaster without a seatbelt? In the latest episode of "Love, ADHD," Julie and Tony unpack these relatable moments and explore the less-talked-about side of ADHD: emotional dysregulation. It's not all about forgetfulness or hyperfocus; it's also about the intense waves of emotion that can catch you off guard. Julie candidly shares her journey through divorce and the steep learning curve of managing her emotions solo. Meanwhile, Tony reveals his own strategy of humor as a coping mechanism, and together, they discuss the surprising ways ADHD can turn emotional turbulence into a form of challenging superpower.

Diving deeper, they discuss how living with ADHD requires a unique balance between a myriad of ideas and the focus needed to execute them. They open up about finding solace in exercise and how it contributes to well-being by managing the whirlwinds of emotion that come with ADHD. As a therapist, Tony brings insights from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) into the conversation, illustrating how acceptance is a journey. There's no 'good' or 'bad,' just the reality of our experiences and the neurological diversity that comes with them. Julie and Tony also confront the fear of the unknown and the quest for certainty, advocating for the power of embracing the nuances of personal experiences. They end on a note of understanding, humor, and heartfelt acceptance, sharing our belief that personal growth is about learning to navigate life's complexities without needing external validation. Join them for a conversation that's as real as it is enlightening, packed with practical advice and a good dose of laughter.

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More Than a Feeling: Making 'Scents' of ADHD’s Sensory Sensitivities

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 27 Oct 2023 07:51:38 -0400

Do you ever find yourself entranced by the scent of fresh-baked cookies a little more than most? Or maybe you're someone who feels on edge because of certain textures or loud noises? If so, you will want to tune into this eye-opening episode of "Love, ADHD" with your hosts, Julie Lee and Tony Overbay. In this episode, they dive deep into the world of sensory sensitivities, an often overlooked aspect of ADHD that can seriously impact daily life. Julie, a former second-grade teacher, talks about her experiences in the classroom and as someone who suspected she had ADHD. She highlights how the constant sensory stimulation can be overwhelming for children with ADHD, making it difficult for them to concentrate. Julie shares her recent experience back in the classroom as a substitute teacher and how her new understanding of ADHD helped her identify and see a particular student more for who he is rather than the “problem child” that he may be typically experienced as. Julie talks about how medication has helped her manage these sensitivities, but they're far from eliminated.

The episode goes beyond the classroom, exploring the interconnected challenges of hyperactivity, focus issues, and sensory sensitivity that kids with ADHD face. Tony discusses how the quest for external validation can affect a child's self-image and raises the question of the relationship between ADHD and sensory overload in the ever-developing conversation of whether or not ADHD should be included on the Autism spectrum. In a personal anecdote, Julie shares her own sensory quirks, like feeling overwhelmed by an array of scents or her strong preference for loud music and a good cologne. Tony and Julie agree that understanding and managing sensory sensitivities are crucial for children and adults with ADHD. They wrap up by encouraging listeners to embrace their unique sensory experiences and strengths, believing that self-acceptance can lead to great accomplishments in life. Don't miss out on this enlightening discussion!

When Hyperfocus Meets Procrastination - Navigating ADHD's Paradoxical Nature

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 20 Oct 2023 07:52:43 -0400

In Episode 5 of "Love, ADHD," Tony and Julie touch on the 3rd of 5 things that you didn't know you didn't know about ADHD: the ability to hyperfocus and, more specifically, the paradoxical nature of ADHD. The hosts take listeners on a rollercoaster of relatable experiences and insights as they share their own journeys with ADHD. From Julie's frustration with new technology to Tony's reflections on how ADHD embodies paradoxes—such as a lack of focus combined with the ability to hyperfocus—they offer a candid glimpse into their daily challenges. Their discussion also touches upon rejection sensitivity and the coping mechanisms they've adopted, further highlighting ADHD's complex, paradoxical tendencies like procrastination that intersect with acceptance and rejection sensitivity.

Despite the serious topics, Julie and Tony manage to inject humor and lightheartedness into the episode. They openly joke about their struggles, like their constant fear of late fees and underachievement in various aspects of life. Even as they reflect on their journeys of getting diagnosed and the various therapies they've tried, they emphasize the importance of finding a balance in life—be it in oversharing or setting boundaries. The episode becomes not just an exploration of ADHD and its paradoxes but also a celebration of the hosts' progress, little victories, and the importance of authenticity and true connections. This episode is a comforting reminder that while ADHD poses challenges, it also brings opportunities for personal growth and a deeper understanding of oneself.

Feeling All the Feels: When Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) Crashes the Party

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 13 Oct 2023 07:34:33 -0400

In Episode 4 of "Love ADHD," hosts Julie and Tony dive deep into the emotional whirlpool of rejection sensitivity and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD). Starting off with a light-hearted chat about Julie's new hair extensions and the therapeutic power of humor, the conversation takes an emotional turn, touching on personal losses and how RSD impacts emotional responses. They also delve into the intensity of emotions triggered by rejection, while Julie shares personal anecdotes on how this has influenced her interactions.

Alongside RSDs challenges, the hosts also discuss emotional maturity and the deeper dimensions of RSD, emphasizing the necessity of self-awareness and self-acceptance. If you've ever found yourself grappling with relationships, seeking validation, or simply aiming to understand the complexities of emotional responses, this episode offers a nuanced perspective into the not-so-long-ago “treatment-resistant” world of RSD.

Mastering Time and Tasks: Insights Into Executive Functioning

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 06 Oct 2023 08:52:28 -0400

In episode three of Love, ADHD, Tony, and Julie tackle the complexities of executive functioning challenges, going beyond mere distractions. They delve into issues like task organization, prioritization, time management, and the struggle to start and finish tasks. The podcast explores paradoxes like hyper-focus and distractions in project completion. Acceptance and commitment therapy are highlighted for normalizing certain behaviors.

The episode emphasizes the importance of understanding and supporting those with compromised executive functioning, and it references the book 'Driven to Distraction' and the role of structure, like communication systems or ADHD medication, in improving internal communication. The hosts share personal experiences and stress the value of finding the right tools for success, wrapping up the episode with enthusiasm for future shows.

Julie's ADHD Journey

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 29 Sep 2023 07:54:49 -0400

In this episode, Julie and Tony delve into Julie's personal experience with ADHD. She candidly shares her journey, beginning with her lack of awareness about ADHD and culminating in her diagnosis at the age of 33. Throughout the discussion, they explore the profound impact of ADHD traits, such as impulsivity and sensitivity to criticism on various aspects of her life, shedding light on her challenges.

However, Julie also shares a powerful narrative of beginning the journey of self-acceptance. Learning to view ADHD as a superpower rather than a limitation emphasizes the unique strengths and talents that can come with it. Her heartfelt message to those who are newly diagnosed with ADHD centers around self-love and the incredible potential for greatness that arises when one embraces one's distinct qualities and learns to harness them effectively. You can reach them through their individual websites http://tonyoverbay.com and https://www.julieleespeaks.com/

Tony's ADHD Story

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Fri, 22 Sep 2023 03:30:00 -0400

In this inaugural episode of "Love, ADHD - Where Genius and Scatter Meet," host Julie Lee interviews co-host Tony Overbay, LMFT, as he shares his personal story of discovering ADHD in his mid-40s. Julie also opens up about her recent diagnosis, revealing how it shed light on various aspects of her life, including her career and sensitivities to rejection. Tony shares his transformative experiences with Acceptance Commitment Therapy and Ritalin, pivotal in reframing his approach to ADHD. Together, they delve into the complex mental health issue, discussing how medication and therapy have significantly impacted their lives for the better.

Get ready for a candid conversation that combines raw emotion with hearty laughs. The duo also talks about juggling various speaking gigs, podcasts, and writing projects without feeling stretched too thin—a relatable struggle for many with ADHD. Amid the laughter and banter, their ultimate message rings clear: If you're newly diagnosed with ADHD, there's nothing wrong with you; embrace your journey and the unique perspective it brings. Tune in to join Julie and Tony as they kickstart a podcast designed to be as multifaceted as its hosts and as intriguing as the minds it aims to serve. You can reach them through their individual websites http://tonyoverbay.com and https://www.julieleespeaks.com/

Love, ADHD - Where Genius and Scatter Meet!

Tony Overbay, LMFT & Julie Lee — Sat, 16 Sep 2023 19:12:09 -0400

Jump headfirst into the world of ADHD with Tony Overbay, licensed marriage and family therapist, and Julie Lee, keynote speaker and author in the unprecedented podcast Love, ADHD. These co-hosts are two for two. They’re two friends, two decades apart, and both were diagnosed with ADHD as adults. With Tony’s clinical expertise in the field of mental health and Julie’s work cultivating human connection within communities, they take listeners on a journey that fuses humor, insight, and raw honesty. Love, ADHD is a celebration of ADHD's brighter side, proving that sometimes unforeseen paths lead to the best destinations.