Ali has never spoken publicly about her six years of sexual abuse at the hand of her father. Today, she beautifully shares lessons on healing, forgiveness, and the ultimate hope she has experienced. Her road to recovering has not been easy; nonetheless, she shares why it has been worth it.
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Love you Ali! You sound so put together on this topic and I am sure your interviewer is owed some credit for that but I am proud of you! Much Love, Amber Ada
Thank you for your bravery in sharing! It’s so interesting to hear the similarities in different sexual abuse stories. Perpetrators and their protectors have patterns and it is so helpful for former victims to learn that they are not alone and they are allowed to feel angry, hurt, and betrayed. You are helping more people than you know by sharing. Thank you!
Reverencing your journey, Ali ๐๐ You’re words are teaching me much about trauma and abuse. My heart aches for all you’ve wrestled with and I bow to all you’re emerging from.
Ali, I just want to thank you for sharing. I was sexually molested at the age of 4 and this went on for a few years by different people. I saw many therapist but they all seemed to skip over what had happened to me. I remember always feeling like there was no closure. I dealt with a lot of control issues this desire to control everything and making myself depressed and sick when I was not able to. It wasn’t until I was married my husband told me to use his insurance to try therapy again. I remember telling my therapist I just want someone to tell me that what happened was not ok. He replied "You are right it was not ok what happened to you." And for the first time I felt like I was being heard. It wasn’t that I wanted to relive any of the events I just wanted someone to say that it was not ok. I think hearing me say it out loud myself was so healing. I honestly do not need that constant control like I did before and when I feel like I have non I am happy to give it to God. There is definitely healing in forgiveness but also in recognizing what it is and not down playing it sweeping it under the rug.
Thank you for sharing! I’m a dad who loves watching strong women sharing their stories. My daughter spent a night at her friend’s house when she was about 11 or 12.. My daughter’s friend’s stepfather attempted to molest my daughter. The police and DA did nothing in Eagle, Idaho. During the incident, my daughter’s girlfriend woke up. She, my daughter’s girlfriend, woke up from sleep, and upon waking up went ballistic during the molestation.
I, as my daughter’s father, have fantasied about killing the molesting step-father of my daughter’s friend (he’s an ugly piece of shit) . Women may or may not understand this fantasy of a father. But I’m curious, do you think my fantasy is wrong or good. I think it’s good. I may kill him still, but it is still only a fantasy. But is easily one I could accomplish. I think my initial emotional reaction as a dad, my continued focus on this after over ten years feels natural. Normal. What do you ladies think?
Thank you so much for sharing! โกโกโก My younger brother and I can relate to being emotionally neglected by our parents & I was molested by a "friend" & my younger brother was molested by a "friend" & relentlessly tormented by our older brother. My parents never let me speak up or stand up, I was told to "butt out" & ignored… & struggled for more than half my life with suicidal thoughts… my parents had UNhealed Trauma from their own childhoods. I’m learning boundaries! I trusted some people way too much, while also NOT trusting people who could help me. Trust IS earned and Forgiveness relieves us. Thank you for validating my feelings and experience!